I am a widower, and when I first met my now late wife over 4 decades ago, she was beyond gorgeous. And I was a skinny dork totally out of my league. She was so beautiful, and I shouldn't have been given a chance to date her. I still am shocked to this day my angel on earth (now in Heaven) even gave me that miracle chance to even be seen with her. I loved her at first sight. And from day 1 to her dying breath, she never had one day to question if I loved her. That is is vow I made to myself before seeing her on that first date. I am proud to have kept that vow. This has taught me how a lady needs to be loved and treated. For the level of love & respect I gave her was like nothing she ever had before. she was jerked around by so many before me. I learned through my extreme love for her that the more you cherish a woman, the more a good woman like her would love me back. Because she so loved the way I respected her, I did not have to control her, or any of those other jerk things some guys do. She loved me back from her own freewill, and that was far more greater and passionate than anything I could ever try to force her to do against her will. Guys, if you need to control her, one or both of you are not in true love. Maybe deeply caring for each other, but not true love. A man (or woman) who does not cherish their partner has one of three things that makes love not feel right. You either are not with anyone, you are with the wrong person, or you are such a jerk that you deserve no one. One other thing. This is for the ladies, but could be just as true for the guys. If you are with someone trying to sell you on how great they are, and maybe even are for you - RUN! They are a lying heartbreak waiting to happen that has some truth to hide. If they were as great as they say, their life, how they talk you & treat you would tell the truth about the real them. If they start selling themselves, more times that not, it is to distract you from looking at their heartbreak walk, and listening instead to their lying talk. If a guy truly loves you, they will cherish you. That goes both ways. anything else is a false love. And ladies, you all deserve someone who will cherish you. Don't settle for anything less, for in the end, you are creating a greater future unhappiness for yourselves. and don't you deserve better? I am not writing this to make women become interested in me. Let me have to walk the talk like every other man out there. I write this for those with broken hearts who keep choosing the wrong kind of guys. Also for those of you simply craving someone to love. Knowing what to look for in your own heart, and in someone else's might be the very thing to help you find the right man for you. This comes from a man who had true love until cancer took her in 2019. I always told her as I went to work that I will see her when I get home. She is in Heaven now, and I still tell her that I will see her when I get home. That is love. I am no expert and do not know everything. Nor do I claim to. I just speak from years of personal experience. Ladies and gentlemen, cherish the one you love, if you really do love them, and if it is mutual. For if you both do, you can have the most fantastic love of your life. That is what to look for. May you find your real love soon.