By Vic2ria, Nov/20/2021
Yes topic is interesting and would like to share my thoughts. It would be different but will base on my pasts experience. I think, have into a relationship or even in marriage, both couple should have basically be trusting to each other. They communicate openly to let the other know or even open up what happen that was not expected.
Trust and open communication is important--Im saying,if possible no secrets no matter its for the good of the other or its going to be bad to happen.It goes head straight to your conscience if keeping alone.
--My opinion said-- 😚
By Gab, Nov/21/2021
I think one of the major factor about the cause of cheating is DISCONTENTMENT, if someone is discontented with their partners, there's no doubt that they would always crave for something that they cannot find to their partners, the deeper longing to satisfy , the higher of chance to cheat. Another thing is, being RESPONSIVE , when you know someone is flirting on you, how you react to its action is how your responsiveness being tested. My goodness, the world are surrounded with good looking and yummy people, that's up to you how you control yourself then.
Society wont play much role on cheating, to cheat is a CHOICE! Its not something that a society dictates, sometimes, instead of blaming the society , why not blame your peers , there are peers that will teach and tolerate you from cheating and these are the people that wont bring good influences to you.
Yes, or else, why commit if you cant be honest. Honesty begets honesty. But most of the time, people fail to practice this , that's why many of us engaged to wrongdoings .
One of the craziest a someone can do is when he/she already know that even if things wont work out on the relationship but still got the nerve to STAY, its like, welcoming more pain to feel in the future . Why not just break things out and set each other's free to save your self from all the possible pain that awaits . And people should remind themselves that there will be no one who willingly build a monument for them for being stupid.
When things are not hooooo k, to let go is FREE, you need not spend a single penny to do it and again , CHEATING IS ALWAYS A CHOICE!
That's from my honest opinion
By Eric1960, Nov/23/2021
I agree with the others, honesty, trust, and communication are important and it's all a choice. But pretty much anyone is capable of doing these things if they want to. So those things are just symptoms.
In my experience it's usually the "I can do better" syndrome, but nobody wants to come out and say that because it will make them look selfish and arrogant. Which would frequently be accurate.
By jerryb4u, Nov/23/2021
I have to admit that you have some very good points. To add to the "I can do better syndrome" part, People are afraid of hurting others feelings. I would rather someone just come out and say "hey this isn't going to work because of x, y, & z." if that's the case, then, okay I could live with that.
@Gab & @Vic2ria
That's why I choose to be friends with my potential partner first. I find it will save me a lot of heartache later on if I feel it's going to be an issue later on. You both raise some good points in your comments. What i have found in my own experiences is that it's easy to say the trust, communication, etc. are all important, but, at the end of the day, the term practice what you preach comes into play. By that I mean, if our partner chooses not to live by their own demands, then it becomes an issue.
By Eric1960, Nov/23/2021
I'm not sure being friends is the answer either. Sometimes being 'friends' involves all the obligations of a romantic relationship, but none of the benefits (note the scare quotes around friends). But obviously I don't actually know the answer LOL.