First, meet in a public place. There is safety in numbers and meeting for the first time in a restaurant or coffee shop would provide enough witnesses should the date turn sour. Never – and I mean never – meet a man at his home or even think of inviting him to your home until you really get to know him.
Second, tell a friend about your date. Yes, tell a friend or family member the details about where you are meeting, give them his contact details like name and phone number and any other additional information you have about him. Check in with your friend during the date or ask your friend to call you during the date to let them know how you are doing. Besides, this can be used as an escape clause if you feel like the date isn’t going well: “Hey Jim, my friend needs me because of an emergency and we have to end the date.”
Third, drive yourself to the date and drive home by yourself. Having your own wheels gives you control should the date go bad. The worst thing is to be reliant on somebody else for transportation as it gives them the control on how long you spend together and let’s face it, it’s safer to have your own car just in case.
Fourth, stay sober. This may be obvious, but alcohol creates bad judgment and I have known too many women who have said yes to coming to my home after a few drinks. Now remember, I’m a safe guy and so are most; however, alcohol impairs our senses and the last thing you want to say in the morning is, “Why did I do that?”
So the lesson today is to recognize that sometimes intuition can be confused by the chemical attraction or connection we feel for another person “as if we’ve known them all our life.” Common sense can be thrown out the window by believing it’s our inner voice talking. Safety is still safety and being safe ALL the time is a better bet than trusting your gut with someone you have never met, don’t ya think?
So there you have it, quick and easy safety tips for the first date meeting from an online connection. By the way, this works for offline connections too.