So it seemed very apparent that online dating seems to be the way to go. I have signed up for a couple of accounts, both free and paid accounts. I have found that trying to find someone to meet is similar to that of searching for a job. One can spend a lot of time on the computer or their smartphones scanning and scouring the available partners out there. This one is too short, out of my age range, too far away, and so on.
Then there is the chance that you do find someone who you may want to introduce yourself to there is the competition - at least for a man. I have heard many women tell me they receive many messages everyday from men either wanting to meet them or trying to get in their pants. So then I consider my introduction to a woman similar to that of a cover letter. It feels as if I have to highlight my qualifications as a potential date and to do so in a non-threatening way. My letter needs to hit my highlights and talk about my experience.
Oh and let's say that the woman I send the message to likes what she reads and wants to being conversation. I cannot tell you how many times I have been in the middle of what seems like an engaging chat only to have someone tell me she is not feeling a connection... How can someone feel a connection in a text message? To me texting seems to be somewhat impersonal and many times messages are open for interpretation based upon the mood the reader is in. I've seen a few playful/non-sexual comments be completely misinterpreted. It seems that the best connections are made by meeting face to face, or am I just a bit old fashioned?
This really only touches the tip of the iceberg. I can write about this some more, but I need to get back to my search.