going Dutch
by leggyblonde,Nov/15/2021Hi, I find it so confusing when out on a date with a guy I like about food. I generally let him take the lead when it comes to ordering and even paying. Most guys insist on paying but if I think we will not be having a second date I will offer to go halves as it seems the right thing to do. Of course he probably things she is not going to see me again so that is why she suggested it. This situation happens a lot so I now let him buy me dinner or whatever and thank him with a kiss or two as I don't want the date to tail off.
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From my own experience, I prefer to pay for the entire bill simply because I want to show the proper respect to my guest. I don't like to think about whether or not we will have a second date. If we are compatible on that first date and decide its worth another trip, then, that situation will dictate what happens later on. There were a couple ladies who drove a distance just to go with me to a dinner and a show at the local theater. She already paid for her gas to travel x amount of miles and while I was happy she did that I was rather disappointed she used her money when I was willing to help pay for her fuel. With that being said, I think guys need to make sure they are at least offering to go that extra mile to help out. Just my two cents.
My thought about paying who, for a date.I would say,its best the guys do the first move,let the old fashion ways work and besides you would be lucky, the lady did come to meet you & tried to give you guys a chance. Whether it both work for both or theres a next time, it will still be a blessing. Did both appear in the date day--So do the math--:-)
Yes I like it if a guy pays first, like you say the old fashioned way.
As far as I know, the guy should pay the bill. It is the right thing to do. It is degrading on the part of the guy to have the lady pay for the food :) :) :)
Women should normalize saying what they want to order and eat or else , they would go home HUNGRY ? because they don't like the food being ordered, well, at least , that's one thing I've learned from dating?
If he can’t pay for dinner, then you don’t need him.
i think your convention of Going Dutch is noble, and definitely shows that you are putting initiative into a relationship that could eventually turn out to be a spousal courtship. Although the chivalrous approach for men is normally to pamper their potential lover with a meal as well as other treatments, that code is not necessary to be followed 100%. It may be seen as commendable in the eyes of a date, that you offer to pay.
Usually the gentleman pays for the whole meal at a restaurant even for first date. I know a couple who is very poor and their wedding had only snacks, no meals. Their first date was just that-- snacks. And then 2nd time they had a date, one cook for the other. In today's world, if you do not have a job, then don't look for someone special until you get a job, period. I am old fashioned and its the man pays for the meals. Besides that, as a Christian, of course, man pays.