SATXKMC53 blog post

Finding a compatible helpmate is almost impossible!

Looking for that special someone that compliments and completes you is very difficult these days. We live in a world that is overwhelmed with self-centered mindsets and self serving motives. True love is a selfless practice that lives on a two way street and not many find it appealing anymore. Most people that I have encountered have a warped perception of true love in my opinion. My concept of love is summarized in the book of Corinthians in chapter 13.

The Necessity of Love (v. 1-3): Spiritual gifts like prophecy, tongues, or knowledge, and even extreme sacrifice or generosity, are worthless if not motivated by love.

The Character of Love (v. 4-7): Love is described as patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, and keeping no record of wrongs.

The Permanence of Love (v. 8-13): While prophecies, tongues, and knowledge will cease or become obsolete, love is eternal. The chapter emphasizes that current knowledge is partial ("dimly" like a mirror), but in the future, it will be complete.

The Greatest Virtue (v. 13): The chapter concludes with, "And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love".

Being able to find someone that not only understands this concept, but also applies it to their everyday approach to life is challenging. I know that most will dismiss this blog post as a religious fanatic trying to sneak in a Bible study on anyone that willing to read it. But that is not my intention. I am trying to bring awareness to the fact that this is a major reason why so many people divorce, why so many live within miserable relationships that they tolerate and endure. I learned this truth the hard way by experience. I had 3 marriages that ended in divorce. They were all painful experiences that I learned a lot from. I am wiser now, but much too late in my life. I am 53 years old and I have a few years left here. I will not repeat my history anymore because I finally learned what caused my failures. I now know better and will apply what I learned to my next steps.

1. Opposites only attract because it is a lie that has been drilled into society to accept and embrace. If two people are opposite and have different views and practices, how can they enjoy good symmetry together? How can they truly enjoy the ongoing company of the one they are so opposite of? That is why you here people make sad statements like "I need my me time" or "We need to learn how to spend more time together". If you are in sync with the one you supposedly love, wouldn't you want to spend your time with them as much as you can? Wouldn't you both want to enjoy doing everything together? If you share similar likes, that would be easy to do.

2. True love is 2 people trying to out give each other. Because one desires to please, honor, serve, help and fulfill that person with all your strength and ability and make them as happy as they possibly can, and the other also desires to do the same in return, both will be fulfilled and satisfied in life for sure. It sounds too good to be true for most. But it is because most people choose to settle for someone that fills a gap instead of waiting for that special someone that truly is the right match. By waiting on the arrival of that special someone, it will result in you finally connecting with the one who checks all the boxes and lights up your life.

3. Temptations will always come after you find that one. It is a guarantee that we will be tested to cheat with our hearts and minds. If we fail the test, it leads to disaster. Even if we are able to hide what we have done, there is new atmosphere created in the relationship and you will begin to question your decision to be with the one you are with now. It erodes at the desire you have for that one you chose and are with. It will result in loss. Stay determined to love without conditions and do not give temptation a second of your attention. Instead, be grateful that you waited for that special someone and chose to love them with all your strength, heart and mind. Be content with the one you have chosen instead of looking at the next best thing mentally.

I am not a doctor, a counselor or a psychiatrist. I am a man that made serious mistakes in my life with my decisions which not only effected me, but those decisions effected the people in my circle of life. I cannot take those decisions back and it is too late to change the outcomes. But I have learned harsh lessons from these decisions and outcomes. I am sharing this with you today because I am hopeful that someone will read this and maybe avoid making a bad decision.

Thank you so much for reading this blog post. I hope that it has touched you heart and mind in a positive way. Have a great day!